5 signs you can’t handle rejection

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5 signs you can’t handle rejection

Experiencing rejection is not pleasant. We can probably all agree on that. Being rejected can hurt quite a bit – even if you somehow realize that it’s just part of life and that not everything can always go well. However, some people find it particularly difficult to deal with rejection. This can lead them to recognize or suspect rejection even where it isn’t or are unable to overcome even the smallest forms of rejection.

Do you think you could be someone like that? See if these behaviors look familiar to you:

1. You overreact
Think about past situations where you were rejected. how did you react Did you think the end of the world was coming, like “that’s it” (which ultimately probably wasn’t usually the case)? Do you also tend to fear the worst in ambiguous situations? For example, when your boss asks you for an interview – and you automatically expect to be fired? Think about it.

2. You get lost in a spiral of thoughts
If you have experienced rejection, you often find it difficult to accept it and look ahead. Instead, you ponder for a long time what you just did wrong or where your mistake probably lay. Your thoughts circle and keep coming back to your “mistake”, which of course puts a lot of strain on you mentally. There is often no “mistake” and it is not up to you – especially when it comes to relationship issues. However, this is much more difficult for some (depending on their experience and self-esteem) to process than for others.

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3. You get angry
Anger often accompanies the fear of rejection. This, too, can be a way of fighting the fear or trying to overcome it. Unlike fear or worry, however, the emotion tends to be directed outwards, such as at another person. This can fuel problems in relationships and mean that fears are never really addressed or resolved, or that misunderstandings arise.

4. You do everything you can to avoid judging others
Especially those who often have the feeling that they are not enough, that they are not good enough, are often afraid of rejection and will do everything possible to avoid being exposed to it in the first place. For fear of not being liked or accepted as soon as they reveal their “true self”, people withdraw socially or try to always please others and thus offer little “vulnerability”. However, this often makes you feel alone with your thoughts and emotions.

5. You are (or present yourself as) extremely independent
Showing off as very independent and “cool” can be a way of masking (often unconsciously) one’s fear of, or difficulty in dealing with, rejection. An “I don’t give a damn” attitude can also indicate greater insecurities. If the feelings actually felt are swallowed or acted out, it can result in the person feeling down or restless instead – often without realizing where the emotions are coming from.

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