5 signs your friendship might just never beadmin
Do you know it too? You’re scrolling through Instagram again and suddenly you see a post from a person you used to be super close with. You’ve hardly seen each other for a while now, you don’t really know what’s going on in other people’s lives and you think you should get in touch again – but… somehow you don’t really feel like it either? How do you know when a friendship is over?
1. You are both constantly “under stress”
You may still be in contact sporadically, bump into each other by chance and agree that you will have to see each other again “very soon”. Then somehow something always comes up, because unfortunately you both always have so much to do and you never get to meet properly. Be honest with yourself: if you really wanted to see the person, you could probably carve out a window of opportunity, right? You notice it, right?
2. You long for new connections and friendships
It was always nice with your old friend, but that was mainly because it was well known and familiar. If you now have hardly anything to say to each other and see joint ventures more as an obligation, then you don’t have to force anything. If you’re more interested in meeting new people, having new conversations, and exploring other perspectives, then go for it instead of clinging to something you don’t want to be anymore.
3. The only thing that connects you is the past
Sure, it’s super nice to reminisce together and dig up “remember, back then…” stories – but if it’s the only thing you share, it could (but doesn’t have to) be a sign that you actually don’t have much in common anymore and have grown quite apart in the meantime.
4. You keep getting upset with the person
Be it because she only calls you when she has problems in her relationship that you should analyze for her or is annoying you for another reason – do you notice that you mainly associate negative feelings with your friend or venting about them to others is also a sign that you may not be as good friends as you used to be.
5. You feel like he*she doesn’t support you at all
If your friend is hardly interested in your life, your interests or problems, but perhaps expects you to do the same thing the other way around and to be there for him or her in difficult situations, you should also consider whether you still do that want to join. Real friendship is built on mutual trust and support – if one of the people involved is not willing to contribute and be there for the other person, then it is probably not a real friendship (anymore).