8 things you don’t want to know about your parents

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8 things you don’t want to know about your parents

We’ve written a lot about what happens when parents don’t respect boundaries or tend to parentify children, i.e. reverse roles . For children, this can be very difficult and distressing and affect their personality well into adulthood.

But even as adults, it’s not ideal when parents see their children as best friends and tell them things that they should actually tell friends at brunch. We’ve collected 8 things we definitely don’t want to know from our parents:

Sex : No, no, no, no, no we don’t want to know if our parents tried a position, if they have sex at all or that sex life starts to blossom at 40. We know they had sex at least twice, when we and our siblings were conceived. We don’t need to know more.
Our Conception : There are parents who think it’s a funny anecdote to talk about how, when and where you were conceived. Of course, this story is best told at birthday parties, so that these horrible images can be linked to good memories forever. Thanks for that!
Relationship issues : In general, we don’t want to hear anything about our parents’ relationship issues. We’re not the best of friends to discuss your partner’s wrongdoing with. Because these partners are also a parent and that is uncomfortable. Thank you.
Money Problems : Unless it affects us directly, do not burden us with your debts or financial missteps. This is an issue for the bank advisor, not for us. After all, we are adults ourselves now and know how tricky that can be.
Uncertainties about getting us : You thought for a while about aborting us? You were pregnant with us at a super inappropriate time? Were we an accident? Please don’t tell us the stories. Especially not if we don’t have children ourselves and can understand what you mean by that. Otherwise it’s just annoying.
Affairs : In your 25th year of relationship, things didn’t go quite so smoothly and was there a little fling with your neighbor? If we don’t want to know, we don’t need to know, doesn’t bring us any added value, and it’s none of our business either! Please just clarify between you and don’t burden us with it! Sounds harsh, but it is like that! Sorry!
Regrets : Of course, it always depends on what exactly it is about. In the form of a pep talk á la ‘Live your life’ that can fit. But when it comes to what the mother would have wanted to do with her life if she hadn’t gotten us, then that’s not something we need to hear! You have chosen to have children.
Favorite Child : You love our siblings more than us? Please take this knowledge with you to the grave. We are aware that there are people with whom we harmonize better, but there is no reason to say so.

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