This is how you can overcome an unrequited loveadmin
Sometimes it just happens: you fall in love with a person who does not return this love – and despite all hopes, will probably never return it.
But how do you get out of lovesickness ? Here are some strategies that will definitely help:
1: Be honest with yourself
Acknowledging that the other person won’t return your feelings is the first step in getting over it. Because to the point where it is clear that nothing will come back, a lot of energy has already flowed into a black hole. There’s no use getting ready any more. No matter how much you want something.
2: Find your self worth again
When someone doesn’t reciprocate your feelings, the first thing you do is doubt yourself. That’s a natural reaction – after all, unfortunately, we all too often define our self-worth in terms of potential partners. But that need not be! Just because someone doesn’t want to be with you at that point in your life doesn’t mean you’re worthless yourself. So if you’re heartbroken, it’s better to take care of yourself! And if that means dressing up and going out properly again, then that’s a solution too.
3: Ask yourself why you wanted this relationship
With love, like with many other things in life, we usually want what we can’t get. But that’s when you have to ask yourself why you want it at all. Is it because you can’t be alone? What exactly do you envision with the person you are unhappily in love with? And what is your relationship with yourself? Because only when you are at peace with yourself will a healthy relationship be possible. And most of the time you realize very quickly that you are projecting a lot more into this particular person than corresponds to reality.
4: You can feel sad
Pretending nothing happened is not a good strategy when you’re heartbroken. Because something will still come out. That means you can be sad – even if you’ve never really been with this person. Crying, writing about it, listening to sad music – everything is allowed. As long as you can say later: it’s over and that’s a good thing.
5: Be proud of yourself
The ability to love and give love is one to be proud of. So don’t hide them just because someone doesn’t reciprocate them. If you later meet someone who respects and accepts you for who you are, don’t be afraid to get involved. Remember: they should be happy to have you – and the right person will feel the same way.